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Summary

I like bacon. There. I admit it. In an effort to provide full transparency so I don’t waste anyone’s time, I will tell you this: In June of 2017 I was diagnosed with an extremely rare (lucky me) form of Cancer called (are you sitting down?) Systemic Peripheral Cutaneous Non Hodgkin’s T Cell Lymphoma with the added bonus and inconvenience of Spinal Cord Involvement. It was the greatest WTF moment of my life. Things were fairly okay in my world but at the time it was urgent that I start treatment immediately to improve my chances on a disease that typically offers poor outcomes. I underwent high dose chemo, CHOP, a stem cell transplant and went into remission to enjoy the possibility of living three to five years(fantastic)….but relapsed after six months(not so much). I was then given six to twelve months to live. Um, yeah…well…I then underwent a few rounds of radiation and participated in a clinical drug lab rat trial. The radiation helped but the trial flopped. As of today, Nov 21,2020, I am relapsed, refractory and palliative but am positively so. I have regularly scheduled maintenance. I feel pretty good. Why did I tell you all this? Before you click me out I will tell you that my illness has inspired me to do things I’ve always wanted to do and to find some joy and purpose in my life. It helps that there is nobody to tell me I can’t or shouldn’t. I have sharpened my resilience to tough things out, especially now, and opened myself to experience bliss in the oddest places. In between treatments and recoveries I have -jumped from a plane at 14,000 ft. -obtained my RPAL license and took up sport shooting -re-obtained my motorcycle license – experienced Iceland -toured Argentina and Chile by motorcycle -traveled parts of Europe I hadn’t seen before -visited New York with a friend -rode across Canada from St. Johns NFL to Victoria BC. and bummed some of the coastal regions of WA. This summers travels included YT, NWT (sort of). The body held up! This summer is wide open? Part of making it this far is that I’ve chosen to see cancer as a gift rather than a death sentence. There is so much I want to do yet and much more that I want to experience in spite of the current madness and fear mongering. I want to meet a like minded soul that I can be good to and for. I want someone in my life that understands that there are no guarantees in life and someone who lives one day at a time – someone that forgoes a sense of entitlement and allows humility to be a virtue. It would be a bonus to know someone that has zero patience for political correctness and social justice warriors and knows the difference between being awake and aware and being a slave to WOKE culture. A few other bits: – I prefer non mainstream music from artists like THE HOLY, SWERVEDRIVER, GUIDED BY VOICES, SHARON VAN ETTEN, MOGWAI and EXPLOSIONS IN THE SKY – If I had to quarantine I’d rather do so with a reasonably sane and interesting person -my cat annoys me sometimes with his catness -my fish are indifferent -chemo and radiation have burned away most of my filters but I believe in good manners and courtesy -I believe that motorcycle exhaust is curative -I am not looking for a nurse or doctor. There are so many good ones at the FMC and the TBCC -I am not a needy person but I like to know where I’m at with people. Ghosting is a thing I’d rather do without – I do not support the COVID fallacies and resist the measures being forced on people -I’m fairly handy and have all of my fingers and toes to prove it. -I keep a clean home…mostly -I’m not crazy…mostly -I am a youthful 58…mostly -Yes, this is TMI but… I have a few characters left but I’ll leave this as it is. If any of it interests you and you think you’d like to know more…and want to share your transparent, like minded self, drop me a line. It’s an unbroken, joined series of dashes. Like this – _______ , not like this ———. 🙂

On-line dating is an extension of social media. The idea of both digital exchanges is to provide a platform for people to meet and greet each other and for people to reconnect with friends and colleagues that they may have lost touch with. The dating sites are places where people looking for romantic or meaningful relationships and possibly just a hook-up or ten. Similar venues for commerce are ‘The Auto Trader’, Kijiji, ‘Plety O Fish, BuySellTrade, Used.ca, Facebook Marketplace, and Craigslist. Anyone wanting to sell any no longer needed items, personal skills or even themselves for sex can list their wares on open markets. As with any market or retail/wholesale operation, the onus to be an aware and informed buyer is solely the responsibility of the person looking to buy. Guaranties for anything is typically as good as the product or limited to some very fine print that limits product liability of the manufacturer or seller.

Typically adding photos of the item for sale is a good idea. It helps the potential buyer combine the item’s listed specifications and features with an image to decide whether to make further inquiries or not. A picture says a thousand words. It’s the eye candy. The pictures added to any advertisement had best be an accurate representation of the product being offered. If, at first viewing, the picture does not accurately match the real thing, the potential buyer is likely to walk away, thinking the seller is not being totally honest about the real value of the item. Ideally the pictures should be recent and fully representational. Too often the posters seem to think that photo shopping, blurring and smearing of their images to display their best or imaginary selves will lure or interest the potential buyer – adding an air of mystery. Some delusional beauties will use apps like ‘Stickers Photo Booth’ to add playful bunny ears, antlers and cat noses to their uploaded pictures. Okay, so you’re being playful, but are you serious? False advertising by way of imaging is one thing but to do so in writing is another.

Anyone that has experienced on-line dating has probably run across outright misrepresentations of the seller’s qualifications, specifications, and demeanour. People selling them selves as athletic or slender quite often turned out to be anything but. Non smokers and drinkers showed up to first meetings reeking of both. Why bother?

Sample : Self Description

“I’m a fun loving, pilot, artist, energy healer and business owner that loves to travel, run marathons, eat fine foods, and drink only the finest wines. I vacation in Spain and own a house in Tofino…right on the ocean! Of course I surf! I love dogs, cats and reptiles. I am sexy and love romantic sunset/sunrise walks on the beach, Latin dancing and karaoke. I am the ideal man, woman, or any gender you want me to be. I am a Christian, so I am moral, honest, and humane. When I am not living my best life or being true to my essence, you can find me hiking in the Himalayas, reading Proust, or feeding the foodless and housing the homeless. I am also a mask loving foodie and experimental injection enthusiast. I also love to refinish furniture rearrange furniture….and I want to start a family.”

Sorry fellow Match.com member, you are out of my league. I could never have a chance with you. I think I’ll just spend the rest of my subscription scrolling and scrolling and scrolling…opening up the profiles of people that found me interesting…that don’t appeal or resonate or haven’t really understood my profile.

It might be significant that along with honest and true information, I stated that I did not believe or support The COVID Narrative. Traffic to my profile dropped off. That was fine with me. It solidified my resolve to be open and honest and to resign myself to not wanting to disappoint or be disappointed.

I recently closed my account and pulled my profile from the pool.

Life is better somehow.

I am no longer tempted to scroll and hope and scroll, wasting time that could be better used on more satisfying endeavours, like vacuuming cat hair or baiting ANTIFA wannabes.

I meet more good people now that are proving to be more interesting and honest than any possible romantic entanglements.

I met a good many good people on-line.

Some are still friends.

I use the money I spent on my subscription to buy food, liquor or ammunition in preparation for the apocalypse.

I am lonely.

Maybe I’ll just take the jabs and contract AIDS before prowling and go to a bar like in the good old days – keep drinking while chatting up a member of any gender until they start looking really good and have bad sex.

Wink wink!